Tuesday, August 3, 2010

love, love, love

Warning: This post is not about food.

Do you want to know about my first date with The Man of Science?

I remember it well, because he teases me about it constantly. It was a blind date, and we'd arranged to take our dogs for a walk in a park near my apartment. I was weirdly nervous. My hair wouldn't do what I wanted it to do. When he knocked on the door I rushed to answer it.

"Jennifer?" He asked. He was wearing boots with no laces in them and full-length, torn wool coat covered in dog hair. He had a toque pulled over his head at a strange angle.

My first thought, "Well, this isn't going anywhere."

When he bugs me about that now, I try to defend myself. "You looked like a crazy person," I tell him.

The thing was, we had a really great time. It only took us about 20 minutes to get past the awkward, small-talk portion of the date. After the walk we dropped the dogs off at our respective homes and went out for beer and french fries. On his way to pay the bill he walked past me and put his hand on my shoulder. It was nice. After that he drove me home and walked me to the door of my apartment.

"So, uh, I wasn't sure I really wanted to be dating anyone, but you know, I really like you and I'd like to see you again, Susan."

Susan?

Luckily he corrected himself quickly.

When I went inside, my roommate Pam asked me how the date had gone.

"I think I'm going to marry this guy," I said. She looked surprised. I felt a bit shocked myself.

"Really? Why?" she asked.

"He's just so... reasonable."

It sounds like an underwhelming thing to say, and I meant it to be so much more than that. I meant that he was responsible and respectful. That he was smart and interesting. That he paid attention to what I was saying when I talked and that he had his shit together. Not to mention, under the dog hair and the crooked hat, he was damn cute.

So, three years and a few months later, just this past Saturday, we went out to celebrate my birthday at Zen Kitchen. We chatted and laughed through dinner, just like we usually do. And then, with dessert, came something else.

A sapphire ring on a plate in front of me. The next five minutes are a bit of a blur. You know that laugh-cry thing? Does that happen to you? I think it's from the same neighbourhood as hyperventilating. And for once in my life I had no handkerchief with me.

The Man of Science put the ring on my finger and asked if I'd marry him. I stopped laugh-crying long enough to say yes.

"Good," he said, "Because we're leaving for Las Vegas tomorrow."

I've been pretty clear all along that if we were to get married I wanted to elope. The thought of planning a wedding gave me hives, and I'd seen too many friends get stressed out and watched it take some of the joy out of a day meant to be so fun and amazing. Since having a big wedding didn't matter to me I wanted to avoid all of that stress. And the craziness of planning it all. But even an elopement takes planning, doesn't it?

Not for me. The Man of Science planned it ALL. Keeping in mind my love of 1950's and 60's culture he found a chapel with a room decorated to look like an old style diner. He bought three different retro dresses for me to choose from. And shoes. And a little veil. And gloves. He booked an appointment for me to get my hair all done up like Audrey Hepburn in Breakfast at Tiffany's. And he rented a 1959 cherry red Cadillac convertible and drove us to the chapel in it. A very kind Elvis impersonator sang "I Can't Help Falling In Love With You" while we walked down the aisle and then led us in our vows.

It was way more touching that I'd imagined. I don't even know how to explain it except to say that big wedding or small, what is supposed to matter is the two people who are getting married. And looking at him while we said those vows was not goofy, or tacky, or funny. It was just wonderful. I've never felt so right about anything in my life.

Our favourite photo

Our friends and families were able to watch the whole thing on the internet while it was happening, which made them very happy. The congratulations came pouring in. It all made me feel so loved.

And so, I'm married. Ring on my finger and everything. We have two more days to "honeymoon" in Vegas before coming home.

I am a happy, happy girl.

Next post will be about food again, I promise.

J.

58 comments:

sue said...

wow! so wonderful! congrats!

Vegyogini said...

Congratulations! What a lovely, romantic story. :)

One of Ottawa's Real Foodies said...

Pretty awesome. Congrats! Now I want to get married again.

Keri - I Eat Trees said...

Congratulations!! What an amazing, romantic story. :)

Cindy said...

YES. Eloping is the best. Congrats to you both. :-)

Jes said...

AWWWWW Congrats!!!! This is definitely one of the most romantic stories I've ever heard. And you look like a doll! Have a wonderful rest of your honeymoon--

ciaochow said...

I was so curious about how this all came to be! What a perfect tale, enjoy the rest of your honeymoon and congratulations!

(P.S. We eloped too, all that wedding planning stuff is not for me.)

mirbrewer said...

:) Awesome. My husband and I married in Vegas as well.

VeganLisa said...

Thank you so much for sharing your story. I was so excited when you announced your engagement on Twitter but to read the details, let's just say I'm a little choked up over here.

Congratulations to you both!

Crystal said...

Awww What a great guy and a wonderful story!!!! Congrats to you both!!!

Elaine Shandra said...

What a sweet story! I'm thinking eloping is definitely something to keep in mind when the time comes for me!

Heather Moore said...

Congratulations! What a wonderful story (and elopement! ;) )

I hope you post more pictures.

Dimitra said...

What a wonderful story! Congratulations!

Lauren said...

That's such a sweet story. Congrats to both of you!

Brigid said...

Congratulations! What a beautiful memory. It sounds like you know each other perfectly.

Pauline said...

Congratulations! That is such a romantic story! Sometimes I wish that I had eloped instead of going traditional, but as you mentioned all that matters is that two people are getting married, not how they decide to do it. :)

Marja said...

Wow! Great work, Man of Science. :) Congratulations from another random stranger.

Kiersten said...

Congratulations!

XUP said...

That's crazy great. What a guy! Who knew that behind that cool, suave exterior lurked such a madcap romantic? (I guess you probably did). Congratulations to both of you - best wedding story I've ever heard. Here's to an equally amazing marriage.

Kat said...

Love it. If I had it to do over...I would do it that way. But now the MOS is taken, so I'm out of luck! ;-) Congratulations my friend.

Sarah S. said...

Absolutely perfect! Cheers to you both!

Lynn said...

Amazing and so fantastic! I'm am envious of every aspect. If only I could do it all over again! The MoS is a catch and the two of you look just radiant. Congratulations!

Lynn said...

PS: More shots of the vintage dresses, please :).

Tastes Like Chick'n' said...

what a sweet story! it made me smile the whole time! Happy belated birthday and congratulations to you both!

Fame Throwa said...

Oh my goodness! This is such wonderful news! I'm simultaneously bursting with joy that you've found your life partner AND that you didn't have to plan a wedding AND that your man did all the planning himself.

JEALOUS!

There are a lot of levels of awesome in there. Very, very cool.

Congratulations!

Ready said...

I was working on Friday night when your man came into ZenKitchen. We were all so excited, and as soon as he walked out the door we were all like "awwwwwww" we are a bunch of girls and we were jealous of you and your cutie!
CONGRATS!

Stella said...

I watched it... And then had to mop up my face because I realized I was crying at work. xoxo

Nat said...

That is so romantic and amazing... and I love that he planned it all.

Congratulations.

Anonymous said...

This is your OM here.....just saying how thrilled I am for your both. I read this and cried and laughed and wiped my eyes, and just could not be happier for you.

amanda said...

Congratulations! Your story of meeting was so touching, and the tale of your wedding brought happy tears to my eyes; just beautiful. You've definitely got a keeper. Best wishes.

ElizabethE said...

congratulations, I'm sure the pets are all thrilled.

Finola said...

Wow, congratulations! That is a great story. Wishing you both much happiness!

Pearl said...

How romantic and simple! all the best you both in married life!

Daisy said...

What a beautiful story!! Congrats and all the best. Love, love love!

Mary said...

I am coming out of the woodwork to say, this is so sweet and great. And Elvis impersonators are the best! Congratulations!

Sweet @ Adventures in Veg said...

OH WOW! Congratulations! That is just the most amazing thing I've ever read, he really is a keeper. Amazing story. You both look so happy xxx

Joan said...

Congratulations.

I've loved this blog because it's made me cook more at home and made my vegetarianism seriously flirt with veganism, and I have to attribute that not just to the food but your writing style and personality that comes through. The wedding sounds likes it was perfect for you to, so again, congrats.

EK said...

Congratulations, Jennifer! I felt like a giant creeper following it all on Twitter and Facebook, but I couldn't resist... it's pretty much the sweetest story ever.

Caroline@ZenKitchen said...

Thanks for sharing your story and your own happy ending. We were excited about the proposal and heard that you were heading to Vegas, but didn't know all the details. When we read your story, our staff shared a collective "aww" and some tears of joy were shed for you both. We're delighted to be a part of your beautiful story. Congrats on behalf of the ZenKitchen crew, Chef Caroline

jessy said...

congrats to you both, Jennifer! what wonderful news! it sounds like you and The Man of Science make one helluva team! your engagement and wedding sound amazing - thank you so much for sharing with us! hugs & happyfaces to you both!

Anardana said...

Congratulations!!!

jen said...

this post made me so happy. food posts are good, love posts are just as good. YAY!!!

Aimee said...

I've been lurking on the blog for a while and had to come out and say congratulations!! What a great man you have!

Mary Massacre said...

Oh this is the best thing I've read in weeks! Best wishes!!

Jessica said...

Congrats to you both! How sweet, and I completely agree on the wedding planning thing. Can I be a total girl here and ask for a ring pic? I also have a sapphire ring and love to see others.

Roxy said...

Congratulations!

Definitely a modernized way of eloping. Normally, people do it in their twenties! And eloping usually happens without anyone being there but the couple. But you still had hundreds of people watching you!

Great story.

Anonymous said...

Love it!

Yes, goes to show you that there's no age limit on eloping.

UncleC&AuntM said...

Congratulations, Jennifer and David. We saw the exchanging of vows on the archives as we were away for the weekend. Great THEME. Enjoyed your column, Jennifer. Manly and "reasonable" preparations for the wedding, David.

Uncle Colin and Aunt Maureen

Anonymous said...

This is Davids aunt Bev and now your aunt Bev.

Denis just sent me this and we watched your ceremony and Uncle Peter and I and the girls are just so thrilled.

Y9u will both be hearing from us.

Lot s of love

Jennifer (It Ain't Meat, Babe) said...

Thank you everyone for your wonderful comments and congratulations! I'm overwhelmed. :)

Trista Hill said...

WOW!! Congratulations to you both!! I love how this happened in every way. I know you will take care of each other!

T said...

Oh my word, that is so romantic and exciting! You both look marvelous and I'm so happy everything worked out so perfectly! Congrats Congrats Congrats!

pickygirlfoodfilmfiction said...

Wow - how crazy/cool/perfect/sensible/fun/incredibly memorable of you guys!

Congratulations, newlywed. Much happiness to you both.

Yvonne said...

Congratulations!!!! I'm so excited for you both. Thank you for sharing such a beautiful story with us all (the random masses).

vegetalion said...

I stop reading blogs for 3 weeks and discover you're married! Your story together sounds wonderful and made me get a little emotional. CONGRATULATIONS!

Leslie said...

Uncharacteristic shyness has kept me from commenting on your always-engaging, beautiful blog up 'til now. Sorry for having been a lurker for so long, but this post successfully brought me out - and brought tears to my eyes! What an incredibly romantic story the two of you share! All the best, and thank you for being so consistently charming a presence in the vegetarian blogosphere!

Mud Mama said...

OMG!!!! Hi!!! Long time reader (love your fiction too!), infrequent commenter. Zoom's little sister.

THAT WAS SO CRAZY COOL!!! What a PERFECT elopement!

Hilary said...

I have missed so much since I've been out of the blogging loop this summer. I was just watching your video on Rogers and noticed the rings. "Well, that's new!", I thought. So I worked my way back through your entire blog to find some evidence of a wedding.

Hey, there are worse reasons for marrying a guy than because he's reasonable :)

Congratulations to you and The Man of Science!